If you’re here reading this article, then you probably fall into one of two different camps. Either, you are one of millions of women in relationships who feel frustrated with your guy because your relationship isn’t moving forward towards marriage. Or, you are one of millions of women in the dating scene who can’t seem to get their relationship off the launch pad. You might feel that you’ll never find the love you deserve or start the family you want. In either case… time is ticking. So you might be asking yourself: “What can I do to get a man to marry you within 12 months?”
If you are already in a relationship, one of the biggest temptations is giving ultimatums to get that much sought after wedding ring. This could lead towards a path of committing relationship suicide. However, if you do feel the need to present your boyfriend with an ultimatum concerning your relationship, it must be authentic. Ultimatums are commonplace when it comes to women who so terribly wish to be engaged to their boyfriend. The waiting game drives desperation (especially if you have been waiting for more than a year or two for your boyfriend to finally pop the question) and desperation can lead to threats!
When we talk about ultimatums, what we are really doing is using a fancy word for threats. Women who use marriage ultimatums on their boyfriends obviously don’t realize that this form of pressure and ‘all or nothing’ attitude commonly results in the demise of the relationship.
So, does this mean to never use ultimatums? Are they ever acceptable? Only when you are ready to handle the truth and act on the response. If you give your boyfriend a ‘now or never’ lecture, you better be prepared to pack up your bags and leave if he comes back with a ‘never’ response. Staying in a relationship after he says ‘never’ only results in losing all credibility and leverage in the relationship. However; if you get a ‘now’ answer, then your wishes have come true. Bottom line is you should only use ultimatums if and when you are ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on the response, whatever it may be.
If you are not currently in a relationship, and you’re asking “Where can I find a man to marry you within 12 months?”, where do you begin? Many women dive into online dating out of desperation to find “Mr. Right.” Statistics show that 90% of the women participating in online dating sites are all emailing the same 10% of men on those sites. As you can see, the competition is fierce and can be unfair for women. You need to learn the best practices of online dating. Take the time to learn the do’s and dont’s of online dating before you hit the scene to avoid a discouraging waste of time.
Have you ever heard the inspirational quote that goes something like this: “Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking”? Yes, well… that wisdom can be applied to relationships as well. You can get a good indication of the character of a potential boyfriend by just observing what he does and how he treats others when it “doesn’t matter.”
You can tell a lot about a person’s character just by watching how they interact with other people when they think that no one is looking. Guys are always able to put on a ‘front’ for a short period of time, especially on a date. But, ultimately, they will always revert back to their true character.To avoid falling for their act, look how they interact and treat people when it doesn’t matter. Honing in on someone’s actions when no one is looking is a good indicator of their true character. Go towards the guy with good character.
If men are not approaching you, ask yourself if there might be something that’s making you ‘unapproachable’. Men are always approaching women, but there are a few exceptions that will stop them dead in their tracks: a group of women, a woman who is sitting down, a “mean” facial expression, etc. Might you be doing something preventing men from approaching you?
Men act in mysterious ways and the one thing that they strive to protect the most in life is their “ego”. Yes, no man likes a shattered ego. Because of this, men usually approach women that look “safe” – rather than going up to someone who is likely to embarrass or reject them. Most men will also not approach a woman in a group of friends. This can be intimidating and make the guy feel like he has to impress all the ladies, rather than just one. What I’m trying to say, is if you want a man to approach you more frequently, learn how men view certain situations and position yourself so that you are in a more approachable manner.
Finally, your looks are not the only thing that attracts men, it’s the total package. Too many women believe that they must be a “10”, and anything else will get them down. This results in low levels of self-confidence. Without self-confidence, your chances of finding the perfect man and getting him to commit are very slim. When it comes to attracting men, it’s not about one personal characteristic that you may or may not have – it’s all about the total score!
I hope that this has been of some help for you. I wish you well on your journey. Obviously, this is only advice, and should only be used at your own risk when you’re looking at what you can do to get a man to marry you within 12 months.