In tantra, lingam massage is an integral aspect of both honouring and nurturing the male sexual organ. The name ‘lingam’ is Sanskrit for ‘the wand/rod of light.’ Honouring and nurturing the lingam with a lingam massage is appropriate and desirable according to ancient tantra, since this organ is both the storehouse and conduit of tantra energy and sensual pleasure in the male. The correct technique must be learned from an accomplished tantra teacher.
During a tantra lingam massage, it should be borne in mind that orgasm is NOT the objective or the focus. Rather, this revered tantra ritual aims to help the man explore the complete spectrum of his ability to experience sensual pleasure. Orgasm, if it is attained during a tantra lingam massage, is at best to be considered a happy incidental event.
It is not only the shaft of the penis itself that is massaged during a lingam massage. The massage should include the perineum, as well as the testicles and prostate. Contrary to common belief, the experience is not always something that an uninitiated man is entirely comfortable with. This is especially true if the man is typically focused on performance, since a tantra lingam massage is not about male sexual performance but about surrendering to passive, externally applied pleasure.
Your tantra master will tell you that an important prerequisite to a lingam massage that edifies both the giver and the receiver is the correct attitude. The receiver must be able to relax, put aside his usual need to prove himself sexually, and receive pleasure gratefully. The giver, on the other hand, must maintain the necessary degree of reverence for this ancient tantra ritual.
The massage begins with the man lying on his back with his head propped up sufficiently to gaze up at his partner. Likewise, his hips should be propped up, his legs slightly spread and knees partially bent. Prior to the actual lingam massage, both the giver and receiver should engage in a long moment of tantra breathing in order to relax and get into the right spirit of the ritual.
The partner then anoints the lingam and testicles with fragrant oil and starts the massage at the testicles. Obviously, this must be done with utmost care, and with careful observation of the man’s face for any sign of discomfort or actual pain. Particular emphasis should be given to the perineum, where the partner should linger long enough to relax this sensitive area between the anus and testicles. The massage then proceeds to scrotum, the area of the pubic bone and further upwards.
The partner then proceeds to apply gentle, uniform hand pressure on the base of the lingam, working slowly upwards. A good technique is to use alternate hands, pulling upwards and releasing rhythmically and then reversing the process, beginning at the head of the lingam and stroking downwards.
The lingam may get alternately rigid and flaccid during the tantra lingam massage. This is of little consequence and does not reflect on the efficacy of the massage. On completion, the receiver should rest for several minutes either in utter quietness or to the strains of soft music. These are the basic tantra techniques that go into a full-fledged tantra lingam massage. Your tantra teacher will instruct you in advanced methods that deliver the utmost benefit of this healing, rejuvenating tantra ritual.