Prostate massage has grown very popular for sexual pleasure to intensify the orgasm in masturbation or with a partner. Since the most direct way for you to massage your man’s Sacred Spot is through his anus, it takes time to adjust to being penetrated in this way. And It’s not for every man. There are many benefits and the pleasure can be very intense for most men.
Before beginning the prostate massage your partner may want to urinate and/or have a bowel movement and shower to freshen up. Make sure your nails are cut and smooth so there are no rough edges or use a latex glove or a finger glove for safer anal play. Also have plenty of lubricant available.
It’s important for you partner to be relaxed so starting out with a nice sensual massage is great and when you are both ready, you can begin massaging your partner’s prostate externally. It’s easier to have him laying on his back and then using your index and middle fingertips, you can touch, rub, stroke, or press his perineum (the area of skin from underneath his testicles to his anus), trying various sensations and pressures. Use your other hand to stroke other parts of his body for additional arousal. This is the beginning of the massage, so talk to your partner about what feels good to him.
You don’t want to enter too quickly with your finger so continue to massage the exterior of the anus until it becomes soft and pliable, and not resistant to your touch. You can do this with circular motions in a slow and steady fashion.
Insert your finger(s) about an inch or so, and when your partner is comfortable, move your finger(s) in an upward motion along the wall of the rectal lining that faces the front of his body. Try to locate a round bulb of tissue – this is the prostate. Once you locate this area, move your finger(s) in a “come here” motion. Remember the prostate gland is a very delicate organ and should be treated with care at all times.
At the same time you are massaging his prostate take his penis in your hand or mouth For some men they may orgasm through prostate stimulation alone, but most need additional stimulation.
If he does indeed find pleasure in this experience hopefully you’ll watch him escalate to one of the most intense orgasms he’s ever had. If not, at least you will be learning together, building trust between you and trying something new.